5 Steps to Planning the Perfect Proposal
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5 Steps to Planning the Perfect Proposal

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The  biggest season for proposals is December through February. Within those months many of us join the bride and groom-to-be ranks. But, before all of the initial joy and excitement of being asked can happen you have to ask first! S,o, how do you propose? What are the most important aspects of a good proposal? What  do you say? 

Before you overwhelm your self I want to break down the whole process for you in a few practical steps that you can take towards making sure your proposal get exactly as you had hoped. 

I am so glad to have you here today. If you are here on purpose that must means you are nervous but thrilled at the possibility of adding more love and connection indoor life. You are my people and I hope the following advice goes a long way for you. 


” You are my people.”

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You’ve bought a ring! Or maybe you haven’t , but you have decided that the person you are in a relationship with the is the person that completes you and you are ready for next level! So now what? Well, I have broken down the creation of the perfect proposal into 5 basic principles to help you navigate this alien concept.  Take your time and read through each step, then take action. Even if you aren’t the take action type, it can help to grab notebook and paper and answer some of the questions as you read them. The perfect proposal is just a few steps away.

Step by Step guide to planning the perfect proposal

Step 1 Consider Who You are Proposing to

You know them best, so, who are they? 

Do they like to be center of attention? Then perhaps a grand gesture, like asking in front of their family, is an option. Are they shy? Then, perhaps, you should keep it a private and romantic affair. Creating a profile for them can be incredibly helpful in making sure this ends up being a perfect proposal, write out a list of their favorite things, places and dreams. Plus, it may even help you get to know them better than you thought you did. Make it a game for yourself to find all of these things out without being a creeper about it. 

Here are some questions to help get your ideas flowing:

– Do they like flowers? What are their favorites? 

– What are their favorite shows and movies? Are they “The notebook” types or more ” The Walking Dead” crowd?

– Are they traditional minded? Should you be asking their family for their blessing?

– What activit├ęs do you do together that are especially exciting or memorable for them?

– Can you pick something off their bucket list and turn it into a proposal?

– What are they going to want to look like when they look back on the photos years from now? Planning ahead can allow you time to make sure they have the perfect outfit for the big reveal. 

– Are they lavish people? Google search then contact a company that styles grand proposals! 

Step 2 Don’t Be Obvious

Don’t be weird or sneaky or ….weird. Off character moves give it away every time. I know its nerve-racking but take a tip from Dalton  { see his proposal below} and just do something you would normally do ( or plan in advance) and work a proposal into your everyday life. 

They are going to know something is up if you do something out of the norm, keep secrets from them ( this part could seriously backfire), or act weird. Then your perfect proposal will be stopped dead in its tracks. 

Step 3 Dont Let Google Consume You

It is SOOOO EASY to let social media and Mr. Google take originality away from you and dull your creativity. The perfect proposal is unique to each couple. I highly prefer pen and paper and old fashioned brainstorming over google searches. Which is why you won’t find any specific ideas in this post, only the tools to come up with your own. If you feel like you have to get online to do this, try snooping their Pinterest board. People who are on Pinterest tend to pin their wildest fantasies. Sometimes they even pin their idea of a perfect proposal, SCORE! If you don’t get that lucky, however, you can always give yourself a challenge to get to know them better than you ever thought possible before actually planning anything. 

Step 4 Start Gathering Details

Once you have completed a paper plan of the perfect proposal you are hoping to achieve, start gathering the details of how you are going to pull it off. 

  • Write a rough draft of what you want to say ( don’t make this hard, just tell them what this means for you, what you promise them and how you plan to enrich their life) 
  • Get the ring, this doesn’t have to be a diamond anymore. If your lover is into more low key alternatives there are so many amazing, lower cost but still stunning alternatives. Check out Etsy {alternative engagement rings} ! 
  • Pick the perfect time of day for your chosen location. Make sure what ever you have planning will work in your chosen location and pick the time of day or day of the week when it will be most secluded. Sunday mornings usually work out well for this.
  • Gather all of you materials. If you are getting balloons or flowers or butterflies, figure out where to get them, when you have to order them, how they will get to you, how much they cost, etc. Or, hire a company to do this for you, some of them will even set it up! 
  • Ask for help, find a trusted friend of yours or theirs to help you pull off some of the more time consuming tasks. 
  • Remember to work it all in to your normal routines or figure out a really cool excuse for something out of the normal. 

Step 5 Hire a Damn Photographer/Videographer

you have done all of this work to find the perfect way to propose to your significant other, don’t let it slip by without having your perfect proposal documented. Chances are this moment will fly by and the details of how it all happened will fade pretty quickly for you both. Hire a trusted professional to make sure that all of you hard work stays remembered for generations. Walk away with something you can share with your children and grandchildren. Did I mention I shoot proposals? 

Dalton + Chamberlyn

Dalton’s perfect proposal: He came to me with a hope that I would help him plan the perfect proposal. He knew he wanted to ask his girlfriend to marry him, and he knew he wanted it documented, but, he was unsure of exactly how to do it. We decided a photoshoot to mark their 1 year anniversary that was coming up was the perfect ruse. Dalton did quite a few things right on his own however. First, he makes it a natural point in their relations to surprise her with something special and adventurous every month or so. { Guys, and gals, spoil your person, please, if you find it hard to make sure your someone special is spoiled, maybe you should reevaluate.} Because of this, a random photography session for the two of them wasn’t completely out of the norm. Second, he made sure to time it around their anniversary so that he had an extra good excuse to top it off with. Look at the surprise on her face! Just look at it! You want to remember that look forever, trust me. 

man and woman on a fishing dock on a small pond while he is on one knee in front of her proposing far away

close up of womans hand resting on mans chest with engagement ring after being proposed to

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